5-selectivity
After experiencing rejection or betrayal, it’s common to become more picky and critical in our search for a partner. We may have negative thoughts about the availability of good partners or harbor mistrust toward certain genders. These defense mechanisms can lead us to dismiss potential partners without giving them a chance or to view dating as compromising rather than an opportunity for happiness.
However, it’s important to be open to the possibility of finding true love and happiness with someone who may not fit our initial expectations. The experiences of others have shown that sometimes the people we initially distrust or are not attracted to can turn out to be the ones who value and love us for who we truly are. It’s worth giving these relationships a chance and being open to the potential for happiness and fulfillment.