It’s typical to feel impetuous and bewildered after a breakup. After all, the procedure involves a whirlwind of emotions. Part of the rollercoaster ride is going through your contacts and wanting to call everyone you know to slander your ex. To protect yourself and your fragile emotional condition during this difficult time, you should avoid calling specific people.
The individual who despised your ex
It can be very tempting to contact a loved one who has a grudge against your ex or has cautioned you from the beginning. Nothing cleanses the soul like a good ex-bashing, after all. According to some therapists, this is incorrect and may cause you to feel worse than before. Getting struck with an “I told you so” might aggravate the situation, and even if they don’t come at you condescendingly, speaking toxic and negative things (too much) won’t make you feel better in the end. You’re just focusing on someone who no longer deserves your attention.
It’s totally normal to be angry, but try not to wallow in it – for our own good. Furthermore, too much communication with these people might obscure a critical period of self-reflection. Unless you’re certain that all this individual will offer is support, reach out once you’ve processed a little more.
